Saturday, September 26, 2015

10 Things I'd Tell My Younger Self



As the years go by and I get a little older, I start to think of things I wish I could tell my younger self about life. This post is inspired by my blogging friend Bethany Georgina she wrote a post of ten things she'd tell her younger self. Like she said, when I say my "younger self" I mean about 16 years old. So without further ado, here are my ten things:

1. Embrace your passions.
For those who know me, you know I am good at a lot of things--not great, just good. I have a lot of loves in the world: singing, dancing, piano, violin, writing fiction, writing poetry, reading, helping others, working, etc. I was always worried that I had to choose one thing to do for the rest of my life. Now, at almost 22 years old (less than a month away!), I realize I am capable of doing whatever of those passions I want! I can combine some of them to create a job of my own or find one that I fit into. I can be a writer (which is a package deal with reading) and use that writing to help others or write music. Sure that leaves out dancing, piano, and violin, but I can do those whenever I have free time. So, 16 year old me, you can do anything you want! It's okay. Embrace your passions!

2. Eat it. You know you want to.
I know you think you need to be skinnier than you already are, but I'm here to tell you that you don't. You are beautiful how you are and that extra taco will be worth it. Eat the whole meal so you can make it through dance class without getting exhausted (in the non-healthy way of course). You are hungry, I know you are because I'm you. So do yourself a favor and eat it. You know you want to.

3. Be who you want to be.
I know you are going through high school as the "innocent church girl" but you and I both know that's not who you truly are. Yes, you have a faith and you believe in God whole-heartedly. But that doesn't mean you can't speak your mind or make mistakes. You are still human, hun. Be exactly who you are because that's how God made you and you will discover your true friends.

4. Life is tough. You are tougher. 
Things are looking pretty grim for you right now. I know. I was there. But I...we survived it. We pushed through the struggle and made it out alive. Just keep your head up, keep yourself busy with school, work, and dance. Those things will give you the distraction you need to keep yourself from dwelling on things too much. How each situation affects you is ultimately up to you. You can choose to let it make you suffer, or you can choose to learn from it and become even tougher. I suggest taking the second option because you have some majorly tough life events heading your way that you need the strength for.

5.  Friends will come and go, and that's okay. No matter what it will happen in some way. Some will change their minds on being your friend, and that's okay. Life will go on to better things. Some will move away and lose touch, and that's okay. You will meet new people and so will they. Some will still be near but lose touch, and that's okay. Life gets busy as you get older. Don't fret losing touch with those you thought would be around your whole life because you are going to go on to do so many wonderful things you never even dreamed of. Hang in there!

 6. Boys will come and go, and that's okay. You will have a few long lasting relationships, and you will get your heartbroken two too many times. It will hurt, but you'll grow closer to finding exactly who and what you need in a relationship. Take time for yourself to learn about how you function and how you communicate. Learn how to make that known to a significant other. You are in no rush. Be patient.

Two of my many wonderful grandparents (:
7. Talk to your grandparents.  You don't realize it yet, but you are going to need all of your grandparents in your life for different reasons. You also don't realize just how lucky you are to still have all of your grandparents alive. There will be many friends in college who have lost or are losing their grandparents while you get to keep yours. Embrace that. Take advantage of the time you have with them. Text them randomly to let them know you are okay and you love them. Call them to see how their week is going. Keep them updated on your life because they actually do care about what you are doing. They want to see you succeed, so let them know when you do. Just talk to them.

8. Talk to your parents. I know things are hard for you mentally right now and you feel like they won't understand. But they will and they do. They've been through some of the same stuff before. They know you don't have the easiest life sometimes. They want to be there for you and help guide you through whatever is happening. They also won't be around forever. So let them talk to you, and let yourself talk to them. They love you. 

9. It's okay to fail sometimes. There's no other way to learn how to improve if you don't fail first. Failing is the way you become successful, and it's a totally normal human thing to do. No one will judge you for it, and if they do then they don't need to be in your life. Embrace every failure as an opportunity to grow. It's okay.

10. Love yourself.  Believe it or not, you are an amazing person! You are strong, capable of surviving anything life throws your way. You are the perfect amount of independent and dependent. You have a pretty great head on your shoulders and know right from wrong. You're intelligent, no matter what math class has you struggling. You are passionate about following your heart and making dreams come true (no matter how long it will take to do so). You are talented at a lot of different things. You played the violin for five years, have been singing and dancing your whole life, play piano fairly well, and are a pretty awesome writer. You are beautiful because you are the perfect combination of Mom and Dad. You are beautiful because you have one of the biggest hearts around. You are beautiful because you are who you are. So love yourself, okay?

Until next time, 

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Saturday, September 19, 2015

Five Unnecessarily Loud People

People who are generally loud irritate me. I don't mean loud as in they talk or laugh loudly. Although that can be pretty irritating too at times, and I will share one instance. But no. What I'm talking about are the people that do every day things at an inappropriate volume.

Let me give you some examples.

1. The girl in the bathroom who just had to let her backpack fall from her shoulder to the floor instead of setting it down and then slammed her stall door shut. Seriously? Even if you are in a hurry, these things can be done quickly and yet at a decent volume. We know you're in the bathroom. You don't need to make an effort to have your presence known.

2. The person in the library studying from a book and still manages to be loud. It's not hard to turn pages quietly. No we're not on the quiet study floor, but we're still in a library. You can make noise, but do you need to run your finger along the page the entire time you're reading before you actually turn to the next one? And obviously you need to take notes. I understand that. But do you need to slam your pencil down every time you need to turn that page so loudly? Do you?

3. The people who don't pick up their feet. I know I am guilty of this sometimes, but I do it a few times then become aware of it and fix it. It may be 7:45am and you're on your way to your 8:00am class. But come on. Wake up enough to pick your feet up an extra half an inch off the ground when you're walking. It's not that hard.

4.  The person on the phone walking through the store. The background music here is not loud, you don't need to try speaking over it. No one around you is talking at a volume louder than what the person next to them can hear. Phones work where you can speak in a regular tone and the person on the other end can hear you just fine. So, please do not include the rest of us shoppers in your drama filled conversation. I don't know anything about you. But I do know that Sarah is "expecting her third child with a third baby-daddy," and that Don (who I'm guessing is your significant other?) just got fired for something you never expected from him and no one should ever hear about. I know all this because you just spent the last hour in the store telling everyone about it.

5. The roommate who can't go in and out with out causing a scene. I understand you got home late and you want to get to bed or you got up early because you want to get some work done before classes. But it is possible to pick up your keys quietly, shut the door cautiously, set your backpack down gently. You are able to open and close doors with making the slightest possible sound that not even the lightest sleeper could hear. These things are possible! I promise. All you have to do is move a little slower and be more conscience of your actions and their volume. Your roommate is sleeping. Respect that. The extra three seconds you spend slowing down to be more cautious and conscientious are not that big of a deal. Calm down, slow down. You got this.

Note: This is not about anyone in particular. These are things I have heard from other people or have experienced myself with different roommates.

Okay, those are some of the loud ones who need to get it together and respect other people around them. Is it really that difficult to do things quietly? I mean really.

Am I alone in this? Or have any of my readers experienced this too? Share your stories with me or add to my list! I'd love to hear/read about it!

Until next time,
Kay

Saturday, September 12, 2015

Money vs The World: Which is More Important?


People need to have a little faith in themselves and what they are capable of. Not to mention, they need to have a little faith in others as well. Yes, there are valid reasons to be realistic in terms of finances and timelines. But there's no point to telling someone they simply cannot do something or that they should find a different option.

I mean come on. Put the money worries aside and realize that there are so many more important things in this world. People who say things are unattainable because of their cost: Um, hello? Haven't you heard of working hard and earning that money? I think if I work as hard as I do, I should be able to spend my money however I please. Right? Right. So, if I have a dream that tends to cost a little bit more money than others, then why should I not work harder to achieve it?

There is never a good time for travel. Poor college students who have next to nothing in their savings. Adults in the "real world" who have money in their savings but no time due to work and a family.  But why should that stop someone from going? There is so much to see out there! Gorgeous views, different cultures, other people! How can you put a price or a time limit on something like that?


This is not an attack on anyone who prioritizes things differently than I do. I am simply stating my view and how I feel. I refuse to let money dictate my happiness, and I do not judge those who think about it differently.

So, rant over. This post will be shorter simply because that's all I had to say about it!

Go out there and do what makes you happy. Don't let others tell you that you can't do something. You got this!


Until next time,
Kay

Saturday, September 5, 2015

New School Year Goals


It's September! That means it's the start of a new school year, and I am beyond excited for it! Not only are my classes going to be great, but so will my new roommate and most importantly so will I.

A new school year is a great time to start some new goals and become the best version of myself that I have been so far. So, here are some of my goals for this school year:

Me last year.
I'm not that flexible anymore.
Gotta fix that!
1. Exercise regularly
My roommate and I have the same first class Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday. So, she and I will be waking up early and doing some morning yoga before we get ready for the day. We also will be doing push-ups and tricep push-ups before bed. On Wednesdays and Saturdays--when the weather stops being unbearably hot-- I will be going for walks and in the winter going to the gym for some cardio. I think that will be a sufficient start to getting myself back in shape and confident with my body.

2. Eat healthier
This is a struggle since the campus food isn't always the healthiest. Only one place that I enjoy eating at has healthy-ish options so I will be doing my best to stick with those options at lunch and dinner. I usually have breakfast in my room and that's typically a bagel, cereal, or a granola bar. If I'm eating healthier, it'll help me feel less sluggish and actually willing to exercise. Right?

3. Keep up with my blog
Last school year things got crazy, and I let My Gibberish fall through the cracks. Not this year! I will maintain my blog even if life gets a tad overwhelming. Unless I actually need a break to catch my bearings, of course. I don't think any life changing event will be happening this year so I should be able to keep up. Then again, I didn't expect it to last year either, so...

4. Laugh more
My beautiful cousin and I at her wedding.
Naturally, we were laughing so hard we snorted.

This is one of my biggest goals. And my favorite! I want to be even happier than I was last school year. I want to enjoy life and make the most out of it. I want to go to bed each night knowing I laughed that day. Laughing is the best medicine, is it not? So, I will begin each day knowing it's a new day. I will go to class with an open mind and let things happen as they happen. I will do my best to not let myself get upset as easily--this will be difficult because of the way I'm wired, but I'm working on it. I want to laugh more, and I want to enjoy life more.

So, to anyone who reads this that I talk to on a regular basis or sees me around campus, help keep me accountable, please. I will be crazy busy all the time, but that's the way I like it. I am ready, I am stoked, and I am going to be an even better version of myself. So, here's to a new school year and an even happier me!


Until next time,
Kay