Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Settling

Isn't it funny how life seems to have it's own plan for us? We don't really get much say in where we are supposed to end up. Obviously we do have some say, we make the choices for ourselves, but we don't get to decide whether or not those choices will make us as happy as we deserve to be. We can force ourselves to be happy with whatever choice we're making, but that's defined as a word I dread. Settling.

Settling should not be in anyone's vocabulary when it comes to life decisions. Everyone should be able to go out in to the world and find the exact thing they need to be as happy as they can be. Whether that's in a career path, relationship, a house, even something as simple as buying a pair of shoes. These are things that no one should settle on.

We shouldn't just go out, see an attractive, well-functioning, and seemingly comfortable pair of shoes and buy them right on the spot. We have to think carefully about those shoes, and ask ourselves if in a year or two will they still be just as fully functional and comfortable as they are now? How in the world is someone supposed to know that answer? Well, they don't. No one knows. All we can do is convince ourselves that this is the perfect pair of shoes and risk getting blisters. When we eventually learn that maybe these weren't the best pair of shoes to buy, we have to bring ourselves to accept that fact and move on to a new pair. Which is never easy, especially for us women who love our shoes.

As hard as it can be to let go of a past decision we swore was the perfect choice, we need to. That's when we lean on our friends and remind ourselves that we aren't settling. Remind ourselves of what we want from whatever aspect of life we may be deciding on. Where do we want to be in ten years? What do we want to be doing? Who do we want to be there? These are things we need to keep in mind at all times when making a big decision. Doing this will ensure that we are not settling for anything less than we deserve in life.

Settling? Not in my vocabulary.

Until next time,
Kay

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